EPISODE 141: Hope for Our World

Hi Everyone,

Here we go with more on hope: “Hope for our world.”

Do you think that the general state of the world is getting better or worse?
Someone recently asked this question of the Dalai Llama, the leader of the Tibetan Buddhist world. With his characteristic giggle and emphatic gusto,

His Holiness replied, “Better!!! Undoubtedly it is getting better.”

I’ll take this answer from a guy who lost his ancient homeland, witnessed the destruction of its temples and the torture of his friends, was personally chased by the Chinese who wanted him dead, and for over 60 years has been an emissary of peace and compassion to a wide variety of global situations.

In our intense times, it is really necessary for each of us to find our own personal “healthy hope habit,” and live it each day, all out!
For ourselves, and each other, and the human world as a whole.
Today’s podcast has a few ideas about how to do that – thanks for joining in.

Mary Hayes Grieco & Erin Warhol

EPISODE 141: Hope for Our World

“Keep it Simple,” the 12 Step Slogan goes.

In these uber-complex times, this may be the medicine for all of us. Like the philosopher Henry David Thoreau, who explored the principle of SIMPLICITY in his famous book, Walden: Or, Life in the Woods, we need to learn how to live deliberately, “to confront the essential facts of life, and learn what it has to teach.”

In fact, living simply is a noble goal, and a high state of living and understanding, though it means different things to every person.

How do we participate as engaged citizens, without being overwhelmed with the scope and variety of the problems that are afoot?

By doing our own tiny part, and realizing that sometimes a problem is solved and a solution is created from a level way beyond our rational ability to plan and implement it.

It’s important that we all hold the spirit of good will, and the best and highest intentions for humanity, and together create the fertile ground that will support the miraculous changes that we need. We need to keep the faith, collectively.

Let’s remember the simple things:
Live one day at a time.
Help who you are able to help, practically.
Do what is yours to do and love who is yours to love.

If we each tend our own little piece of the garden, with as much love,care, and realism as we can muster, then it’s a good day.

There’s a LOT of positive intention going in to our society.

If we can align with it, then something good will happen for us and everybody, again and again.

So, pass it on! Thanks for sharing our podcast with your people.

Peace, out!

Posted on January 30, 2016 | Discuss on Facebook


Dear listeners –

There is so much chronic stress and distress in the news these days – racism, terrorism, extremism, and the scary storms driven by climate change. Lately, I have met a number of people who feel strained and worried, and who feel great uncertainty.

We’re just not sure any more.

How do we find hope for our society and our planet? And of course, there are those personal situations that stretch and strain us, at work and in our families. They challenge us to find the energy of hope, day by day.

In my lifelong path of recovering from a native tendency to begin each day in a state of despair about my self and my world, I have developed some ways and notions about hope that help get me through difficult times with a lighter step. 

Ah, you didn’t know that about me, did you? Yes, I was born already depressed and despondent about everything. And, I have been making my way into a state of sustainable cheer for a long time, with frequent short dips into the dark valley of the Glum Outlook.

Somehow, I am happy more and more of the time, no matter what’s actually going on.

I am eager to share a few things about “Hope” in these next two podcasts, and I promise you there will be no Pollyanna-style “positivity” in what I’m saying.

Something different, something do-able. And as ever, a few laughs along the way.

Thanks for joining us,
Mary & Erin


“Being Irish, he had an abiding sense of tragedy, which sustained him through temporary periods of joy.”  W.B. Yeats

Hope is a way of walking into our day,
of being open in a way that leaves room for the tiny miracle.

We must walk into our challenging life situations with some part of us that is always breathing, always relaxed and aligned with “the highest good.”

Most things are not within our control, and plenty of things are neither what we expected nor what we wished for. Not what we thought, at all. 

But hope itself is not a positive thought – it is a way of giving up our attachment to all thoughts, in order to be at peace in the now, as it is.

On a personal level, and on a collective level, the human situation is such that we will sometimes have to face into things that are sad or disappointing – we will have to regain our footing in order to go forward despite the sense of loss that we feel.

We are free to give up if we want to, but it is the strangely indefatigable energy of hope that makes us comb our hair and take our next step.

The truth is, we cannot stop a person or a thing from dying – right before our eyes.
Therefore, we must make friends with death, because life is a cycle of birth, death, and rebirth.

Destruction, decay, dissolution is a part of every single day because that’s the way it is.


Enjoy this program in which Mary reflects on her long experiences of being a “Calamity Jane,” and how she has learned to step back and back until she can see a bigger picture that is held in a space of benevolence.

Remember to keep that tiny shred of trust in your pocket, and turn your face to the very next opportunity to give or receive some love with someone.

Because we’re all in this together.

Posted on January 23, 2016 | Discuss on Facebook

EPISODE 139: The Serenity Prayer – It’s all there!

Hi Everyone,
We’re taking a dip into The New Kitchen Mystic again this week, in celebration of one of the most universal, user-friendly prayers on the planet:

The Serenity Prayer.

This prayer has long been the staple wisdom of every flavor of 12 Step program that there is, but I think it has so much to offer to any human being who wants to have a better day than you might otherwise be having.
So, if you weren’t fortunate enough to get all banged up and bottomed out on a terrible addiction of some kind and end up in a mandatory 12 Step meeting, this is your chance to belong to the club anyway.

The Serenity Club. You’re human, and it isn’t easy to be human for anyone, is it?

I invite you, our listeners, to join the Serenity Club, whenever things are feeling overwhelming or unpleasantly not within your control, and you are about to embark on being the worst version of yourself. Instead, put this complementary 12 Steps hat on, and say one of those sunny and simple slogans:
One day at a time. Keep it simple. Easy does it. Let go and let God. It works if you work it. The 12 Step way is simple – but not simplistic! – and sunny, and sustaining. And the Serenity Prayer guides us in relaxing into acceptance, and taking charge of what we can, and being able to know what’s what. Welcome to the club!

God, grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.

Mary & Erin

EPISODE 139: The Serenity Prayer – It’s all there!

Are you tense, anxious, and more wound up about your life situation than you should be? Are you having a “trying” time?
Stop trying, and instead… Sit right down. Breathe. Clear your mind, and whisper The Serenity Prayer.
God, grant me the serenity to
accept the things I cannot change,
the courage to change the things I can,
and the wisdom to know the difference.
The Serenity Prayer is a global prayer that contains everything; it’s where the wisdom of East and West meet.
It guides you to see clearly. Do I need to relax and accept something? Or do I need to seize the courage to change something?

Where is my “wisdom to know the difference?”

Sometimes, the magic medicine to improve your experience of your life situation is to do BOTH: see the good in what is, and accept it. AND make a solid movement with your will to make a change for the better.
How does one live “one day at a time?”
(Hint: you can ONLY manage one day at time; it is illusion to think that we can do any better than that!)
Enjoy the story of how Mary walked herself out of worry and chaos and into peace of mind by just thinking about this one day.
And what about this “letting go and letting God” concept? Erin shares an experience about that. (And nobody got frostbite.)
Enjoy your day! Just this one. It works if you work it.

Posted on January 16, 2016 | Discuss on Facebook