Unconditional Forgiveness

From tiny daily life frustrations to deep heartbreaks and world atrocities – the process of healing is essentially the same, and Mary Hayes Grieco walks readers through each of her Eight Steps to Freedom with clarity, compassion, and humor. A potent synthesis of her 25 years of living and teaching this method, this wise book is destined to be a perennial favorite as a reference guide for growth-oriented people or as a gift for people who are going through difficult times. Here are the Eight Steps to Freedom that reliably bring you swift and permanent relief from emotional pain:

  • Step One: Use Your Will
    Declare your intention through the power of will to begin the process of forgiveness.
  • Step Two: Express Your Emotional Pain
    You are given complete freedom to express your honest emotions without judgment or fear.
  • Step Three: Release Expectations from Your Mind
    Identify and let go of the expectations you had surrounding the person or situation that you are forgiving.
  • Step Four: Restore Your Boundaries
    Firmly separate yourself from the harmful actions and attitudes of the other person or situation.
  • Step Five: Open Up to Getting Your Needs Met in a Different Way
    Emotions have been released, expectations have been let go, and you no longer demand anything from the person or situation that you are forgiving.
  • Step 6: Receive Healing Energy from Spirit
    Reach to a higher level, bringing unconditional love and light into your being.
  • Step Seven: Send Unconditional Love to the Other Person or Situation and Release
    Unconditional love and light is freely given to the person or situation you are forgiving.
  • Step Eight: See the Good in the Person or Situation
    Now that you are free from the past pain and grievance, recognize the good that can be taken from the person or situation.

What People Are Saying

“Genuine forgiveness is one of the most powerful healing tools of all time, but the actual how-to is often elusive and shrouded in mystery. Now, thanks to Mary Hayes Grieco’s profound new book, we have a deeper understanding of the power of forgiveness and how to put it to work in your life.”
—Gay Hendricks, PhD, Author, The Big Leap and Five Wishes

“Of all the factors that foreshorten our lives and erode its quality, emotional stress increasingly emerges as the biggest culprit. Mary Hayes Grieco’s book offers us engaging, story-driven science and a straightforward approach to relieving emotional pain—something from which we all suffer from time to time. It’s a must-have manual for anyone interested in living a longer, better life.”
—Dan Buettner, author of New York Times bestseller The Blue Zones